Are you fed up of being held back by limiting beliefs? Have you had enough of not being able to turn your dreams into reality, because you’re blocking and sabotaging your progress? Are you ready to have a clear-out and move on up to the next level?
Here’s my favourite sixty second process for how to change a limiting belief – a long-cherished excuse – and setting yourself free to move closer to the life you have been dreaming of. I have used it with mentoring clients and my Masterminders (and myself!) for over 14 years.
Beliefs, like clothes, were never intended to be worn forever. If they’re tired out and no longer fit, it’s time to say goodbye!
We pick up our beliefs from the most random of places.
Sometimes we get them from our family or teachers, sometimes we pick them up from the media and our perception of society’s beliefs and expectations of us.
Wherever they come from, all beliefs have one thing in common:
Our beliefs either block or enable that which we create in our lives.
Got any old beliefs hanging around in there, that no longer serve your highest good?
How about having a good rummage and clearing a few out?
Letting them go is much less effort than hanging on to them and looking after them, year after year, as they keep you stuck in old habits and out-dated ways of living.
And you get all the fun of choosing the new replacements, as an added bonus.
Want a sixty second technique to help you let go of an old belief, right now?
- Choose a belief that no longer fits.
How to spot one of these?
Think of something you really want to acheive, create or experience, but have been struggling with.
Now finish the following sentence:
“I can’t do this, because….”
The word ‘because‘ allows you to uncover your (potentially well-hidden) excuse. This helps you to spot the limiting belief that has been holding you back.
- Next allow the belief to soften.
I’m not a big fan of positive affirmations. Telling your unconscious mind that a belief it has spent decades reinforcing with carefully-collected evidence is not true is a great way to set up an inner conflict, which always brings trouble.
As Carl Jung reminds us: “What we resist persists.”
So if we go around bashing our beliefs, we’re likely to end up feeling miserable and demoralised.
Instead, allow the belief to soften; to melt; to gently be released, rather than forcing it into the dustbin, kicking and screaming.
One way to soften a belief – to open your heart and mind to the possibility that it doesn’t need to be true for you any more – is to ask yourself the questions:
- Is this really true?
- Who says?
- Will the ‘future me’ thank me for letting go of this out-of-date belief?
Feel it starting to soften and melt away, like butter in the hot summer’s sun.
- Choose to let it go.
Letting go of them is simply a matter of choosing. “I choose to let go of this belief; I don’t need it any more.”
It doesn’t have to be any more difficult than that – unless you want it to be !
- And then get curious: “What would my ‘future me’ like me to believe instead?”
(That question might send your head into a bit of a spin – that’s ok!)
Play with new ideas of what you could believe instead.
Try them on for size.
What kinds of thoughts are they thinking? How would it be if you were to start thinking those thoughts, right now?
Imagine you have incorporated them into your life and zoom forwards a couple of decades – how does it feel? Really allow yourself to experiment with the curiosity and excitement of a young child, while you choose your new, more empowering beliefs.
Sorry if you wanted it to be more complicated. 😉
All you need to do now is to remember to keep polishing that new empowering belief.
Maybe write it down on a post-it and stick it in your wallet, where you’ll see it every day? Put it on the mirror, for when you’re brushing your teeth? Perhaps you could set it as an appointment reminder to ‘ping up’ on your computer every couple of hours for a few days?
How else could you get creative and remind yourself to play with your new empowering belief?
There’s absolutely no need for it to be difficult, if you do it with a lightness of heart and a dollop of self-acceptance and self-forgiveness.
Want More? Want to feel like we’re working together and be guided through this process with a video workbook and downloadable MP3 meditation?
Want to have a go at this?
Which worn-out, old beliefs could you choose to let go of today?
How about sharing how you get on, via the comments box, below?